tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post7089111018389426916..comments2023-10-10T05:08:08.582-07:00Comments on Waiting for my baby: The Dark Mondaylittle vitu's momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01278601777604552101noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-43060864151338422762011-09-02T17:47:07.363-07:002011-09-02T17:47:07.363-07:00I know your little boy was beautiful. I have not b...I know your little boy was beautiful. I have not been on much but just checked your site today. I read your story about your dream. The funny thing is that I had a dream last night about my Leia. In the dream family members and I were holding her. Then it went to me in the hospital with her and I was watching her sleep. I woke up at peace and felt like I had spent some time with my little girl.<br /><br />I recommend counseling. It helps. I went to a psychiatrist who wanted to put me on meds so I never went back to her. Found another grief counselor and she is great. I was seeing weekly, then went to two times a month and now this month I am starting to go monthly. It really helps to talk with someone in confidence and having the specific time to know you will do this. I hope you can find someone that you are comfortable with. <br /><br />Hugs and thinking of you.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06199548483187437696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-27349510232536080672011-09-02T06:52:14.285-07:002011-09-02T06:52:14.285-07:00Yes, I have the scans the mundane reports, everyth...Yes, I have the scans the mundane reports, everything.<br /><br />The ped was ever so kind to list down on a separate piece of paper everything that happened to my baby.<br /><br />And when I read it, I can't believe how wrong things can turn, and still can't for the life of me understand why it had to happen. <br /><br />Go for some counselling, yes. The grief is unbearable, and our relationships also take a toll.<br /><br />-EnnuiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-35757386086810204872011-09-01T09:52:33.436-07:002011-09-01T09:52:33.436-07:00I have those day dreams visions too. Like Missy mo...I have those day dreams visions too. Like Missy mostly during the day, I dont remember the night dreams so much except for the bad ones, they always seem to linger. I hope you find a counselor and I am still on the search as well. I actually have a lot of daydreams of Jack running around the house naked with me chasing him down trying to put clothes on him. I am sure Vitu was a very handsome little fellow.michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07960223886511130664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-13103364201593356262011-09-01T01:19:45.457-07:002011-09-01T01:19:45.457-07:00Sometimes I have woken parallels where I am doing ...Sometimes I have woken parallels where I am doing one thing, but envisioning what I would doing at that moment if he were alive. I would love to meet him in a dream, but I rarely ever remember them so I guess I will take the woken ones. I love visiting with my therapist. She is does not specialize in grief. She listens and rarely talks. I just get to unload for a whole hour and feel a little lighter when I'm done. If I have a totally un-rational thought she will tell me, but most of the time she tells me what I feel is okay. I hope for the best for you in your counselor search and specialist visit as well.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215595176820577303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-41609330862776937102011-08-31T18:11:58.686-07:002011-08-31T18:11:58.686-07:00I'm sure Vitu was a beautiful boy. I bet it wa...I'm sure Vitu was a beautiful boy. I bet it was hard to dream of him, and know it's not real. :(<br /><br />Oh how I wish it were real.Lj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-63136108642490433522011-08-31T10:33:40.962-07:002011-08-31T10:33:40.962-07:00No real suggestions, but with my experience with c...No real suggestions, but with my experience with counselors is just to be picky. If they aren't meeting your needs, ditch them. I have been with bad counselors/psychiatrits before and no one should ever tell you that you need to forget your son or make you feel bad about missing him, ever.<br />I hope everything works out.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8940911875834635344.post-8754964667210532082011-08-31T09:49:15.170-07:002011-08-31T09:49:15.170-07:00I bet he was beautiful. And so missed. I'm sor...I bet he was beautiful. And so missed. I'm sorry he's not here, doing all the things he should be. It's not fair.Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04188684792415196300noreply@blogger.com