Saturday, April 16, 2011
When medical advancement cannot help us
I have been thinking about this for a while and wanted to ask the opinions of others about this. I have not discussed this in person with anybody yet. Except my husband. He doesn't have an opinion about so many things. This is one of them.
My grandmom had 3 girls before losing her husband to illness when she was 23 years old. My mom was her second daughter. I have tried to verify if they were all full term babies. Supposedly they were. With no complications whatsoever. My dad is one of the six children of his parents. In either of the families, there wasn't any infant demise or foetal anomaly (from as far as I can gather).
My mother and her sisters all had healthy children of their own. One of my maternal aunt's daughter was apparently born at 33 weeks and she didn't have any complication, just grew up as a regular baby. She is 31 now and has two of her own children. Another cousin was born at 34 weeks - he's almost 26 years old now - such a handsome, healthy boy. In my father's side of the family, all cousins had done fantastically as infants and now most of them have their own healthy children. I do know of one cousin who died young due to cancer. I think she was about ten years old. But if this one tragedy is left out, no one has had issues with having healthy babies, bringing them up.
When my baby was in the nicu and I were still in the hospital, I had many visitors. So many of them had a story of a relative/friend who had prematurely delivered in 28 or 30 weeks and they told about how the baby was now a healthy youngster, or a even a adult married with his/her own babies. No body told me of a case where the premature baby hadn't survived. I know they were all trying to boost my spirits with positive stories. I was then wishing and praying like never before that my baby would survive too. And I can tell a success story to everyone else. A premie, but nevertheless, my son. He was so wanted.
Now, what am wondering now is, in spite of such advancements in medical field how did my baby not survive.
The reason for me to mention all the healthy babies in my family is that they were born through minimum medical intervention. My mother recalls that she didn't consult a doctor until the day of delivery when she was pregnant with me.
I didn't have any inkling that my water was going to break. Scans said nothing. Visits to doctors didn't reveal anything was wrong at all.
The neonatalogist who saw my baby was supposed to the best in my city. The unit and the facilities was supposed to be best. Yet my baby died from an infection. It saddens me so much.